Are you a couple that is new to the  lifestyle and you don't know where to start?  Here are 10 tips to help you get swinging.

1) Read some swinger lifestyle stories  and get a feel for what the two of you want.  These stories will open a doorway to steamy bedroom naughtiness.

2) Talk about it together.  After you both have an idea of what you want out of the lifestyle, build a lifestyle profile together on the site that you like the most.  

Be honest and direct when writing your profile.  You don't want to mislead anyone, it will only lead to drama.

Add a current face picture to your online profile.  People will not know if they are attracted to you if they can't see you.

3) Always talk to one another about what you want and your experiences.  The lifestyle is whatever you want it to be.    Be true to yourselves.  REMEMBER, this is about the two of you, your the ones that matter.  The rest is just HOT SEX!!

4) When you receive replies, make sure that the other couple has current images, no more than a couple of years old.  Don't be worried when asking other people, how old are your images?  This will save you time when meeting new people face to face. 

5) If a couple tells you, "We don’t send images due to our careers,"  don’t waste your time. They are ugly and they know it or they are trying to hide something.  Blind dates can be a big waste of time. NEVER DO IT!!

6) When your planning a swap and SHAGG date, just enjoy it.  Go with the flow and let your toes flap like the wind.  But remember to save some energy for your main partner.  After swapping sex is great SEX.

7) The best way to meet people is by attending lifestyle events.  This way you can meet many couples in one night and avoid the long drawn out email chats and trying to arrange schedules.  Print out some business cards with your email address, profile name, and image on it  to hand out so that people can contact you later.

8) When you attend events work the room and don't be shy.  Everyone is very nice and would love to talk to you.  Walk right up to a couple that your interested in and say, "Hi, my name is...."  Talk to them for a few minutes and if it's not a match, then move on.  The next couple that you talk to may be the lucky ones.  Even if you don't find a good shagg match, you will meet a lot of great people, who are a lot of fun.  Go with the flow and enjoy the ride. 

9) When meeting new people  you have to ask each other, "Do we play or not?"  The trick is, how do you discuss this in front of the other couple?  You will need to excuse yourselves so that you can discuss it together or come up with some type of signals or key words  

For example: "That cheesecake we had last night was great.  I'd like to have some more."   This could mean, "Whoo Hoo, Let's Play."  

       or              "Sweetie, could you get me another drink, but without the lemon this time?"  This could mean, "No Way!"

10) Doing one for the team. YES or NO?  Everyone will tell you NO WAY !!  You are a team and should never settle for less than what you are looking for.  The lifestyle should be fun for the both of you. 

CHECK OUT THIS GREAT BOOK:

"Doin One for the Team: Years in the Swinging Lifestyle."  We have given out dozens of these books at past events and our guests have come back and said," WOW,  thank you so much!"  If your new and want to work out the kinks.   This book is a great starter.

by Simbaxxx (Author)

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